My idea was to have four or five sex buddies that I could see on an occasional but regular basis. We would be cordial but would basically limit our interaction to cock service. I would allow him to be totally the Man, while I became the submissive cocksucker for him.
One guy I was into was Bill S. He had a real need to dominate another man. I met him in the park. He was single. I used to go over to his duplex in Boston's north end (the Italian neighborhood) where he had inherited this pad from his uncle, who had passed away due to a heart attack. This was back in the 1970s. He would watch sports on the TV and drink beer while I blew him--right down there on the floor between his legs as he just sits back on the couch and watches the game. I also gave him backrubs and footrubs. There was never even any hint of reciprocation on his part. He was totally dominant. It was hot stuff. His family all lived around the neighborhood, but our relationship was all under the category of straight "buddies" watching sports together on Sunday afternoons. A few times his cousin interupted us to watch the game with us (a real drag for us when it happened).
He also had this fantasy of whipping a guy--a real father/son thing for him, just like his dad had done to him--so I let him beat me a few times with his belt, although this was not really my thing. I enjoyed it because it gave him such pleasure--payback I guess--the blowjobs afterwards were always really intense. This went on for about a year and a half. Then he got serious about this woman, and cut it off with me. I saw him years later in a gay bar, but he was moving in on a young bimbo, so I didn't approach him. Then I moved away from Boston to return to school. I don't know what ever became of him.
Another guy I met at an S&M bar in New York City, but he was from the Boston area. He was married, but he used to come over to my apartment in the afternoon sometimes to get blown and watch a game. He liked to lord it over me and have me lick his feet and suck his toes for him. That always got him real hot. A few times he also pissed on me--me kneeling down there naked in the bathtub for him. He liked to be fully dressed, standing on the edge of the tub in his boots. He just unzipped and let it rip. He liked to do this just before he left--a sort of "closing ritual" where he was marking me as territory, I guess. He always left me kneeling in the tub dripping with his hot piss while he disreetly let himself out. He also had sex a few times with my spouse--that is, a few times we both serviced him. He moved, I guess, because one time I tried calling him and it was just disconnected with no forwarding number.