I am posting the following because I was told to, by a Man in the US who I correspond with and I always do as He says. I apologize if it's a bit disjointed and it refers to other men I have served and have previously described to Him. Please let me know if this pleases you or not after reading it and I will let Him know and I apologize for my bad writing. I understand that if you write me, you will probably insult me. I accept that.
I have an enjoyment in being secured and abused, just part of my sub side I guess. I have to admit that I much prefer normal items, sort of household or everyday objects to be used. Rather than specialist purchased items, if you understand what I mean.
Leather Wrist and Ankle cuffs with studs and a metal ring are ok. But a length of cord or rope has far more meaning, things like Duct Tape and cable ties can be too dangerous and painful. Yet Parcel Tape has just the same effect and strength, but much less painful to remove later.
I knew a Man and he had a Dog Leash hanging on the back of his Door, as if ready for when he took his dog for a walk. Yet he did not have a Dog, so most people assumed it was just a reminder about a Dog he used to have. But for the subs it was a tease and physical prop he might use if he took a fancy to you.
Another advantage of daily items is that if seen by others it may look a little odd, but it does not raise any suspicions. Of all things used to punish, the slap of a hand is very effective. It's more personal and of course the owner of the hand gets to feel some of the effects of its impact.
Ask any spanker and the majority will say giving a hand spanking is much more fun and beneficial. It gives new meaning to the term hands on, but that close contact adds to the sensation for all involved and does not require special equipment, only opportunity.
Yes Canes, straps and paddles are sometimes necessary but again require preparation and expense. But why not a trouser belt, my Uncle bought me a wide leather belt to wear, so all day and while he was away on his travels I was reminded of him and the use he put the belt to on his return.
I had a Boss once and he would take his belt off and put it on my desk as I sat there, or I would find it in my desk drawer after returning from lunch. I knew that later when alone he would summon me to his office and I'd have to accept his punishment.
With a punishment comes many effects and the stimulation of all the senses for both parties, and spectators if you're lucky. Yes the sight of a Whip or Cane may bring some fear to the sub, but surely a slap or punch has more effect. It is perhaps out of the blue and gives surprise, along with the feeling of pain. Then there is the sound of skin hitting skin that fills the room followed by the sub's cry of surprise and the stinging pain.
But the Dom also experiences a small amount of pain, enough to perhaps start His adrenaline pumping. Also as it's up close, He can see the response of the sub's face and body to his chastisement. Now what better than perhaps a bare footed kick to a sub's balls or his stomach, I suspect the impact on the sub has the same effect and the Dom also experiences some of the contact.
Ok so He can see the effect a whip or cane has on the subs, He also hears the effect. But with a slap or punch He also experiences some of the pain, even with a kick he will sense some of the hurt he is producing.
Tying the Dom's Boots to the subs balls, so no need for fancy expensive weights the effect will be the same. Of course clothes pegs have a great many uses and are great, but the Dom's forefinger and thumb are much better for use on a sub's nipples and other sensitive places.
A Dom's hand around a sub's balls or throat, says much more than any clamp or collar.
But of course, we have to get to the beginning, the start of the sub's surrender. That can only be verbal, the sound of the Dom's voice instructing the sub to submit.
Not jumping out from behind a bush and attacking the sub or slipping something into its drink. The submission has to be consensual, because the sub knows he wants it and now has been offered a chance to prove itsself to a superior.
So trembling the sub undresses, many things go through its mind the first thing is has he got this right. Did the Superior really want me to strip off or am i about to be laughed at. As to what the Dom is thinking I have no real idea, except i hope he is enjoying the start of his conquest.
As the sub continues to obey the verbal commands and looks from the Dom, like the Dom looking at the subs clothes on the floor. The sub should have known not to make a mess and to have folded its garments neatly to one side. The sub will be so scared right now, maybe even looking around for that expensive equipment, but its not there and now its mind starts to race.
Of course, the ultimate fear of the sub is to be rejected at this point, standing there naked and the Dom flicks his hand in a dismissive move or even starts laughing and tells the sub to fuck off. What would the sub do then, fall to the floor and beg or scoop up its clothes and run away crying. His pathetic little body having been rejected, its mind now crushed not just with disappointment or the little pride it did have. It's been found worthless before it even got to beg for mercy or to be allowed to serve its Superior.
We all know what the sub wants, what it will do no matter how depraved or demeaning. It wants to suckle on the Dom's cock, it wants to taste the Dom and his man juice. Now using equipment on a sub to make it suffer and beg is easy, but verbal abuse is better. Just the sound and tone of a Dom's voice can crush a sub's feeling and any pride it thought it had, even reduce it to tears from humiliation.
The use of everyday household items is not only effective but they can be used as an aid to memory during the working day, when a sub is separated from its Dom.
One Dom had me carry around a very short length of plastic chain, three or four links long, again as a reminder when i was not with Him as to whom i belonged. At work I had to put the chain on my desk, if anyone asked about it my reply was to be is to remind me to buy some more.
Of course nowadays the internet and its availability keeps a sub in contact with its Dom. But the bit of Bailing Twine I had to have tied around my ankle, was perhaps a better reminder as I worked for that Farmer in the fields.
The verbal insults and praise from a Dom go straight to a sub's heart, they go deep into its mind and inflict more pain than any whipping. The praise of you're a good little cock sucker aren't you, is barbed as its also saying that's all your good at you scum. Also to put a sub down verbally in front of others, is a major blow to the sub. It does not take much just the click of the Dom's fingers or simply being told to shut up.
So there stands the naked sub, waiting or maybe now on its knees and holding up its arms. Hands together waiting for the Dom to tie them up, but he does not need to do that as he can now slap the sub on each side of its face. Time and time again, no matter how hard and the tears of the sub. A punch to the face does more than collaring a slave, as it will get up and resume the kneeling position and wait for the next onslaught from the Superior.
The breaking of a sub is not difficult, let's face it the sub has been looking for a Superior Person all its life. Now a Superior Being has given it an opportunity, it's not like breaking a stallion this is a sheep. But the Dom has to instill a need in the sub to keep serving him, show the sheep it needs this and wants this. Lead it down that road of submission, maybe even add it to his flock of sheep. Shave its fleece off and let it look in the mirror at what the Superior has done.
Let's face as they say in those Sci-Fi films, resistance is futile earthling. The sub knows its future and no matter how hard it may try to find a different place in life, it's a sub and always will be a sub.
The Dom knows the sub wants that one thing, its Superiors cock and of course to be allowed to provide amusement to the Dom, its Master.
All the Dom needs is imagination and that streak in his superior character, to be so good as to show the sub just a little of what real life can be had. Chaining a sub up can be fun of course, but mental chains are far more effective and last a lot longer.
Perhaps for a Dom it gets greater pleasure when it comes across a sub that has denied its role in life or even tried to raise its standing up in life. Trying hard to leave its submissive nature behind him and even hiding in the heterosexual world. Suddenly it finds it is self-exposed, not only has its sub nature returned but its love for cock exposed.
At those early sex parties i watched a man get gang banged, he cried and begged yet the next day his love for cock was insatiable. No special toys were used to secure him, just men holding him and taking turns. As I say perhaps the best sessions are equipment free, of course sometimes a prop even if it's just hanging on the wall or leaning up in a corner has the desired effect.
But from a subs point of view, it's not the memories of past experiences that matter. It's what may happen with the Dom that I now stand before, he is the one setting the rules not my thoughts. My mind is now concentrated on the Dom and pleasing Him, not what has happened to me in the past. I am open minded but of course hesitant as to what will happen now.
I am of course reminded when I see objects or situations that remind me of the past, encyclopaedias and large Bibles remind me of the times i had to kneel on one or stand arms out stretched holding one for ages. Perhaps it's the same for Doms, are they reminded by objects or do they just see the sub in front of them that could be of use.
I do believe that submission and Domination (or should that be Domination and submission) are more mental and mind things. Nature has given the Dom all He needs to make men submit, perhaps from boredom He might use a physical item just to see how well it works.
Respectfully, Fr50boi