It was in 1985 I first new Tad. He and I lived in the same dorm. Can't say we became "friends" but we knew each other -- both single guys. I must say Tad always caught my eye -- he was tall, light blue eyes with blonde hair, on the thin side, but looked very strong. Very Scandinavian looking. We passed in the halls -- sometimes saw each other in the communal showers...but NEVER did or said anything about anything.
Nearly 20 years later, I am managing a branch of a company chain. I had learned during that time Tad was also a manager. Later, I learned he was being used on occasion as a traveling trainer -- to visit branches around the world and make sure everything was running the way headquarters desired.
Lo and behold -- we receive communication we're to have a visit from the traveling manager. Who is it? Tad!!! By now, now only am I 41 years old (the same age as Tad I would find out), but I'm happily married. Yet, my heart skips a beat when I hear he's coming.
Part of our local branch's arrangement is to care for the accommodations and meals for Tad while he's in town -- make sure he has all he needs. Fortunately, my wife is happy to help me do that, and he's made quite comfortable during his week with our company.
One important thing to say right up front: while I'd had thoughts and feelings about guys for decades, I was still a virgin with them. Never had I ever acted out anything. I would soon find out -- Tad was in the same situation!!! He was still single -- but happily so, and not with any gay tendencies to speak of.
Over the first few days, Tad and I enjoyed "catching up" and just enjoying the familiarity of our background, age, and status in life. Admittedly, it was generally with my wife or others in the company, so we were not really alone.
One evening, Tad and I did manage to get some hours along, and talked at great length....about personal things. He was so interested in what it was like to be married, to have a companion. It was obvious he was also interested in knowing what it was like to be intimate with someone.....
I finally couldn't stand it, and told Tad exactly what I felt when I heard he was coming, that I was excited and happy. His reaction: he smiled from ear to ear, happy to hear someone acknowledged him.
Now that that was out, it was easier to talk about the friendship we'd never really had, but that had had potential from 20 years before. After about 30 minutes of talking...and enjoying martinis together....I leaned over...and lightly kissed him on the side of his mouth. It was a closed-mouthed kiss..but just something to show the affection I had for him.
At first, he looked stunned..and I thought I'd made a grave mistake. Then, his blonde eyebrows slightly raised, and he smiled. He slid closer to me, and returned the favor -- but this was not closed-mouthed peck! Tad first put his face right up to mine -- and enjoyed smelling me. Fortunately, I was wearing my best cologne, and had splashed some on my face. He 'ummed' at my smell. And I melted at his.
Though I had made the first move, I froze, waiting to see what Tad would do. Finally, he nibbled -- first -- on my lower lip, which ran shivers up my spine. Then, he gently angled his head, and planted his thin, very warm lips over mine, and used his bubble-gum tongue to taste my mouth. His tongue just gently pushed through my teeth (which I quickly opened for him!) caressed my mouth inside, but then -- rather than 'finishing' and pulling out, he lingered in kissing me with his lips....'umm-ing' all the time as if he was eating chocolate mousse.
I think I almost came in my pants. I had never been kissed by a man, and it was the most delicious feeling I'd ever had -- up to that moment.
As Tad leaned back, to let us both breathe -- my eyes were in a permanent state of crossed. Tad just smiled. He had shown his power over me, and I KNEW he'd done this before. So I asked him when he knew he was gay. He turned so red -- and admitted he was just like me: he had never every in his life made a move on a guy.
I thought: what are the chances that two of us with the same feelings who had never acted them out with anyone would be together to explore these feelings? It was a marvelous time!
Filled with warmness -- our 'foreplay' was short-lived because we were in my apartment for only an hour or so, with my wife and others due back soon. So, we had to come up with a plan and fast to make the best of the few days left ahead........
And that...is continued in part 2 of my story!!!!
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