===Oh boy, if ever there was a story or entry that ought not to be viewed by younger than 18 years of age THIS IS IT! You have been warned. Now this goes also anyone who might be offended by strong sexual discussion. If you are someone whom is not offended...you probably need psychological help (only kidding) but anyway you are welcomed by the author who is surely nuttier than you ever will be.
This is a discussion of the phenomenon of cuming. My facts are derived from my own experience, and research, and stories told to me by others.
What is cuming. You might think that it is the same as ejaculation. It is not. There is orgasm and there is spooging. Some males have learned the ability to orgasm without ejaculation. I believe it is called carezza, maybe not. This is a wonderful thing to learn. It takes a great deal of self-control to allow the orgasmic feelings to overcome you while withholding ejaculation for later. It's wonderful that you can orgasm frequently, but you usually cannot ejaculate many times without a recovery period between them. I did know one fellow who never felt that he completed his sexual encounter until he came twice. There are wonderful feelings arriving from the process of shooting sperm. It's a body relief, not too dissimilar to sneezing. But the greatest, most overwhelming thrill comes from the orgasm of the. It usually affects the total body, and there are strong evidences of the it in blood pressure, blushing, breathing, sweating, emission of odors, trembling, fainting, even discharge of urine and feces.
Orgasm is one of very few bodily occurrences over which we have no control. That's it's scariness and it sublimity. Once you slide into orgasm you cannot reverse the process. It is truly like a faint, or a little death as the French call it.
Now isn't it strange that we seek and seek again this somewhat off putting punishment? Why? Ask any living thing why it is impelled to mate. It is a trigger, a "must" built into our very cellular identity. We must do it, or at least fool the body into believing that we are doing it: masturbation.
Many men believe that their strongest cum is through masturbation. This is probably true because they know exactly the technique to use; when to be vigorous, when to be soft. And the timing is precious.
Incidentally, you might think that this imperative is designed between man and woman for procreation, but the drive is for ejaculation without a specific object. Lay gay, lay for pay, any way is okay.
Now I know you are smacking your lips to hear how others experience cuming. (I'll use that to mean the combined orgasm and ejaculation as most do.)
Wally, an old friend of mine had a lover for several years. Wally is a singer and actor, very enthusiastic and touchy-feely. His boy friend Ray was stolid, unemotional, but steady and kind. They had everything going for them in their relationship except one thing. And this one thing was something that Wally could not abide. It apparently didn't bother Ray. Ray usually fucked Wally. Straights would say "He's the man." It was fine with Wally, Wally was a nurturer and wanted to see his lover "get off" through his agency. The problem was, as Wally explained, "He builds up slowly to cuming. Meanwhile I'm howling like a Banshee. It's embarrassing, the noise I make. Ray goes so far as to compress his lips. That's the extent of his outward arousal. Finally the big "O" comes. I shaking and heaving around; Wally lets out a small escape of breath. He spooges pretty heavy, but that makes no sound, of course. I can't stand it any more. We are totally incompatible.
Let's now take a short detour into pre-adolescent sexual culminations. I use that word because they orgasm, but do not produce sperm before about twelve, but there is some variation. Their orgasms, however, are very strong, possibility the strongest they ever feel in their life. Most kids do not masturbate before adolescence . A few do and they do it expertly and often and secretly. (The dears.) I and my friends remember these feelings. They were often overcoming. Jack, a fraternity brother of mine said that he thinks he fainted each time. Another friend present at the same bullshit session said that he could not help himself, that he fell deep asleep immediately afterward. The college guys I spoke to described the effect that their manipulation of their peers produced. They spoke of enthusiastic "yips" as the kid began to orgasm. Intense sweating was also described. Peeing, yes. Crying and laughing was witnessed by one fellow. All talked about shaking and limbs locking in almost a fit.
Getting back to adults, you might ask yourself how important is it to you, the characteristics of your lover's orgasm/ejaculation. One friend said that he could not continue with his guy because when he spooged, the odor was overcoming, very medicinal and very sharp. "I never sucked him," he said, "Thank goodness. What if I vomited. He might take that as a criticism, no?"
Red, a good friend has had a continuing relationship with Ned, (Red and Ned, cute!) Red told me in a drunken confession that Ned was homely, skinny, had pimples and bad breath, but he had one thing that held Red to loving him insanely: the way he came. "He always shouts out his love for me, he hugs me tightly, he almost sings his cum song. What a guy."
What about quantity of ejaculate? Although the books seem to be very off hand about this, I note that gays are very aware of the volume and some take it as a compliment if it is heavy. Truthfully, I doubt that they have any control over that. It is likely a characteristic, like the shape of your nose. This goes for consistency: clotted or liquidy and may different at different times.
Oh yes, shapes and sizes. Gays whom we refer to as size queens talk incessantly about size. This is an affectation. Great sexual pleasure can be derived from penises of a great variation in size. You know, it's the owner that counts.
The duration of orgasm varies in men. Burgess, a kid in my World Economics Class told me that the guy he is currently seeing goes into orgasm slowly and the effect is amazing. His eyes rolls up, his face goes into a frozen grimace, a little scary he says. He begins making sounds like "Uh oh," sounds of doom coming. Finally with a yelp he gets into the final stages that continue at least a full minute. This story was overheard by another guy standing there. "My guy begins cursing. I mean real mean curses. It was a little shocking the first time. The amazing thing is that he doesn't realize that he is doing it. It's a kind of Touret.
That's really something until I heard from another fellow that the guy he used to go with gets violent. At first he used to hit the mattress with his fists, but then he began to hit him with his closed fists and really hurt him. He was very apologetic, but he just couldn't stop it, he said.
There is another interesting event that might occur, that is inability to ejaculate, and what were the triggers that solved it. I heard several stories about this. One guy told me that "Getting hard and staying hard was no problem. The fucking produced wonderful feelings, almost about to cum feelings, but I can't cum. It is though I am on top of the wall and can't fall off into a lovely resolving note."
We all asked him. "What did you do?"
"Don't laugh, but I faked orgasm."
Asked to explain more, he said, "I finally found out what I needed to get off. Freddie, an English chap discovered it. When I was struggling to fall into a cum, he began tickling my ball sack and I immediately groaned and began shooting." Yes, tickling of the body too is a sexual act, carried too far it becomes part some S/M.
This produced some other stories of triggers. One kid told us that a slap in the face gets him off. Another, a slap on the ass.
I personally knew I manly fellow who could only get off, and this is what you call a real special need, when his partner squeezed the vein that runs inside the ball sack.
I'm going to stop here. If you out there know some other stories about some exotic means to cuming...write me. If I get enough of them I'll put a PS to this essay.
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